What’s real self-love?
It’s dropping the egoic obsession with the “I Suck” Dialogue. It’s releasing negativity towards yourself so that you can be at peace.
There’s this pernicious misconception afloat in the self-help subculture that self-love is about affirming yourself into an explosion of joy and rainbows and confidence, that it’s something you can do or say until you stop rejecting who you are and start to flower into everything that Oprah and your yoga teachers tell you you can be.
But no one bothers to ask an important question: why do we all suffer this strange malady of being in conflict with the way we already are to begin with? Isn’t this insanity—to detest the way you look or behave or what you’ve done or who you are when that is the way things are?
Yes, it’s insanity.
So recognize the insanity in you that resists what is.
The most delicious, satisfying trip for your ego is to resist what already is. And there exists no better way to continue this cycle than to make yourself the object of this resistance. Identifying what’s wrong with you and then turning that into an endless, day-in and day-out obsession—on top of which many of us add the complication of disliking ourselves for disliking ourselves—is total fuel for that little insane ego in you that keeps itself alive through negativity.
So what does it mean to practice self-love? It means to see the insanity of self-hate by recognizing that this is the ego’s neverending game for its own survival, and that there neither any inevitability or utility in continuing to engage in this inner self-directed cruelty.
But for real. What is “practicing self-love”?
It’s being one with yourself. To no longer suffer the delusion that You are divided into You and You: subject and object, lover and loved or hater and hated.
Does a dog need to practice self-love? Does a tree? No. Man is the only living thing that is divided in itself. This is the great challenge of being human. Overcoming it is the only path to peace, to sanity.
For that, we meditate.
Things not to say to me while I’m eating:
- That’s a lot of food
- That’s not enough food
- You’re going to eat all of that???!??
- That looks gross
- That’s not healthy
- That looks healthy
- That’s disgusting
- Why are you eating that?
- I’m glad you’re eating more
In case you didn’t understand, DON’T MENTION ANYTHING ABOUT MY EATING/FOOD/INTAKE WHETHER IT BE POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE I DON’T WANT TO HEAR IT.
"Integrity of Movement is more important than range of movement. It goes without saying that a consistent yoga practice will increase your range of motion. It also goes without saying that this is a good thing since so many of us need greater space, comfort, and freedom in our body. Yet, too much focus on range of motion can easily steer us in the wrong direction. Yoga emphasizes even, sustainable, and integrated movements that facilitate our breath and stabilize the nervous system. Of course, we stretch our body in the practice but we’re looking to cultivate something much more subtle and harmonious in our body than simply pulling on various tissues. We’re looking to cultivate an even, balanced tone throughout our entire body. We’re looking to experience a unified field of sensation so that we can feel our totality, not just create more degrees of pelvic rotation. "
Carbonated Water RinseTo control frizz, pick up a bottle of non flavored carbonated water to rinse with. After you wash your hair, give it a final rinse with a mixture of regular water and carbonated or sparkling water. So, use half regular water and half carbonated water, the longer your hair is the more you will need! Carbonated water rinses work well for those who just can’t bare the smell of apple cider vinegar. Using this rinse will leave your hair shiny, healthy and less frizzy, which is a added bonus for curly headed women.
Many of the hair products that people use disrupt the natural pH of the hair. A substance that is too alkaline will cause the hair cuticle to open, while a substance that is too acidic will cause the cuticle to contract.
Human hair and scalp oil, sebum, has a pH balance of between 4.5 and 5.5. Carbonated or sparkling water reduces frizz is because of its low pH level. Carbonated water has a pH level of about 7.35. It should be diluted with water until it has a pH level of 4. Anything between 0 and 6.9 is acidic, 7 is neutral, and anything between 7.1 and 14 is alkaline.
can’t wait can’t wait can’t waiiittttt
I saw this salad recipe yesterday on tumblr.
It is very refreshing and delicious,totally loved it!I added a kiwi fruit and some basil,too :)
Going to wear this one day.
So going to do this,if I can find the same top lol
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